Today is already the 15th of Jan. Time really flies. It has been raining on and off, dampening any mood on weekends for outdoor fun. Most of the time, we are confined to home, watching the TV or simply playing with the kids, or it would be shopping centres, where the kids are unlikely to be drenched or caught in the rain, with plenty of food and walking. It's so bored to stay in Singapore when it's raining.

Shocking news from a friend that she had filed for divorce with her hubby of 5 years. Well, I must say I am not exactly shocked by how the things turned out, but more shocked at what her hubby did to her for the past 5 years. On the surface, they looked like a normal couple with 2 lovely girls, but inside, the hubby had been abusing her for the past years. Physical, Psychological and Verbal abuse. Shocked that such things happened between them. He seemed such a loving hubby who worships the ground that the wife walks on. Their daughters are barely 4 and 1. After hearing her side of the story, I was rather glad she had the courage to walk out. Many will stay on for the kids sake. The kids are so young still and will grow up better in a family with both parents. But the abuse hits so hard on the wife that enough is enough. She finally called it quits and threw in the towel. Its not like she had never tried to change the situation or gave her hubby many chances to change...but things didn't work out, she told me. Sad, but she has to stay strong for herself and her kids. Seems like the hubby is going through counselling and is repentence. However, once bitten twice shy. We can forgive but never forget. We can never be together with someone who hurt us so badly and then ask to be forgiven and all misdeeds written off.

It just sets me thinking. Relationships between people are so vulnerable. We need to really manage it well and make sure we don't take things for granted. Many a times, we forget to show appreciation to those that have done so much for us. We take for granted. In the end, when relationships are lost, you feel repentence, sorry and wants a second chance. Well, if you have taken the little effort to make sure you've done your part well, you wouldn't need the second chance right? It's so pathetic and sad to be in that position. I think I'll take some time to think about how I am treating my family. Putting myself in their shoes, saying 'thank you' and 'please' isn't all that difficult. It's also part of showing a good example to our kids too.

Whatever it is, I am glad for my friend. She has proved to be a strong and courageous woman to stand up for herself and not beaten down when the situation became worse for her. All the best to her!