Overdoing or Underdoing?

I have an issue with overdoing things. Not me, but others overdoing things with me. I prefer things to be just the way I like it to be, without having anyone fussing over me or the things I do or I can do. Am I making sense? When I know what I need to do, or make plans to do things, I do not like when others interfere and mess up my plans. The only times I can tolerate that are when I do not have plans and don't mind others taking over the tasks as they are not in my priority lists or when it comes to Hao's schoolwork or the kids' discipline and eating habits LOL. Double standard? No, it is not to me! This is a very big issue for me and it gets me very frustrated when things get overdone by others and I have to redo my plans and it piss me off feeling like everyone is stepping on my toes the entire day. I like the saying "Underdoing is way much better than overdoing as when things are overdone, more often than not the harm is done and it cannot be reversible". So the next time anyone wants to offer help on my tasked issues, please seek permission as I might not appreciate what you have done, even if it's your kind intention. Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you. Bear it in mind.