Its the last term of the school year, meaning that exams are around the corners. In fact, paper 1 for EL and CL are already over and this Friday, oral exams will be conducted. Next week, there will only be 1 school day for Hao as Tues to Friday will be PSLE marking days and the stipulated school holidays. Good news for those who are exempted from exams or those who had completed their PSLE but not for us who will need to go through tons of revisions with the kids. Not that I am one of those "kiasu" parent who wants my kid to be an ace student, but more of the fact that I am stuck with one who simply needs a lot of encouragement, supervising and pushing in his work. Hao even asked me to be sitting beside him all the time when he's doing his work. Sometimes, I wished he'll be a little more independent. Some said I should let go and let him survive this. I just wanna said that I did, but he slacken so much that I got scared. I figured he needed some more supervision till older. Crossing my fingers on that. Still, the next 2 weeks will be rather intense for him (by his standards).
Somes changes I noted in the boys' behaviour recently. For one, they are fighting more. I wonder if it's just the growing up phase or they have issues with either me or other stuff. Had a talk with Hao this morning about this fighting habit recently and he told me that he's angry a lot more nowadays. Angry at his lack of personal space, his loss of privacy, and on top of that, he felt that I am spending more time with Ee and Min than with him. Was rather taken aback as I thought as he's older now, he wants less mummy time and not more. Well, I was wrong apparently and he felt I was bringing Ee and Min out more often than I was with him. Told him that's because he is in the afternoon session and them the morning sessions and thus I spend more time with them in the afternoon sometimes running errands and stuff. He's basically angry at his brothers for having more of me than not. I had to explain to him a lot of stuff and why he shouldn't be angry at them and feeling so much resentment inside. Sigh...and I thought raising boys will be a much easier task!
Ee, on the other hand, is not the gentle and submissive little boy he used to be anymore. Now he has learnt how to fight back when he gets bullied and even getting defensive even other strikes him first. Result? He gets into fights with Hao and Min often now...hubby had a good talk with him last night and after that I also tried to ask him why he changed. His reply simply that he had enough of others bullying him and he doesn't want to be the weak one anymore. Sounds like my baby growing up, but in a wrong way. Hopefully I can help guide him along before I lose my cool over his frequent fights with the other 2 boys (which I already did flared up a couple of times!)
Min is still the ever adorable and cute little charmer to everyone. The only flaw is that he's extremely stubbon and into himself so much. Egoistic and self centered that is. Basically everyone has to listen to him and he's the king at home. It doesn't help that the elders at home are always at his beck and call and boosting his ego instead of correcting him. Yet another challenge for me to try and control his behaviour.
With all these overwhelming issues at home, I am feeling a little wear out these days. Perhaps I need a little break soon. Maybe after Hao's exams we can go for a little short trip. Sigh..
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