Gearing up for the next few weeks!

Exams have officially started. It isn't going to be continous stream of papers but rather today is Oral exam day (both English and Chinese), and then after next week, the exams will continue for about 5 days, with a inbetween break of weekend for them to recharge. Hao hasn't been feeling well since yesterday morning. He complained of tummy pains and then had threw up his breakfast and liquids he consumed so I had to gave him a dose of medicine to stop his vomitting. He recovered, though looked tired and managed to eat lunch and dinner. Before bedtime last night, he ran a mild fever, and I gave him a dose of panadol just in case, and he woke up this morning feeling better. Just halfway through breakfast, he complained of tummy pains again, similarly to yesterday. He is looking rather lethargic and tired now so I had to ask him to rest in bed before going to school. Hope he'll be able to make it to school today and at least take his oral exams lol

Picture updates!

It's been a long time since I've updated any pics into my entries...I am simply too lazy and the slow upload to blogspot...lol

So, I've just got time to download pics from my phone and thought I'll just lose some sleeping time and do the updates..

Min fell in love with taking pictures with my phone camera and loves to poses for me! He loves to do the victory sign whenever he's taking photos..

Pizza night few weekends back with the boys (hubby doing most work while I clean up) making their own pizzas!

Spend a nice weekend getaway with the boys at Conrad hotel 2 weekends ago. Its a business hotel, so there's not much kids facilities but it's still fun since it's near major shopping area with plenty of food and there's a pool they can use. Hao had fun swimming and got to know a few American kids there. Although there's only 2 single beds in the room, but we managed to squeeze everyone in!

See how neat it was before we moved the bed and slept in it? We had it pushed away from the headboard and then against the other wall so 2 beds are combined. Then we squeezed to sleep in, some horizontal and some vertical..was cramped but fun with some feet onto some faces LOL

Hao is a good swimmer now and going for his silver test soon. He told me that his teacher shared with him the story of Jocelyn Yeo (erm...the national swimmer) and it inspired him and he wants to be a swimmer just like her. He said he wants to compete in swimming and win trophies! Ee will be taking up swimming lessons soon too!

Overdoing or Underdoing?

I have an issue with overdoing things. Not me, but others overdoing things with me. I prefer things to be just the way I like it to be, without having anyone fussing over me or the things I do or I can do. Am I making sense? When I know what I need to do, or make plans to do things, I do not like when others interfere and mess up my plans. The only times I can tolerate that are when I do not have plans and don't mind others taking over the tasks as they are not in my priority lists or when it comes to Hao's schoolwork or the kids' discipline and eating habits LOL. Double standard? No, it is not to me! This is a very big issue for me and it gets me very frustrated when things get overdone by others and I have to redo my plans and it piss me off feeling like everyone is stepping on my toes the entire day. I like the saying "Underdoing is way much better than overdoing as when things are overdone, more often than not the harm is done and it cannot be reversible". So the next time anyone wants to offer help on my tasked issues, please seek permission as I might not appreciate what you have done, even if it's your kind intention. Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you. Bear it in mind.

It had been a tough week for me. I have to say that this week had been a learning week for me and I hope that it is also the same for the people around me.

Human relationships are never easy to handle, let alone relationships with our loved ones. It takes a lot to maintain good relationships with the many roles we have to play in our everyday lives. We have to learn to strike a balance in whatever we do, manage expectations, align differences, making sure that we do not create misunderstandings or unhappiness in our decision making.

Relationships, contrary to how we see, had always been a very fragile thing. It take years to build, and seconds to bring it down. When mishandled, it creates problem not just for you but every single one around you who may not even be involved in the situation.

Marriage is a very sacred and long term relationship which has to be build on a sound foundation, right perspective, common and defined goals, clear communication etc. Some marriages look blissful and beautiful on the outside, but is actually fragile within, while some look rocky but will actually survive rough storms and constant fights. Marriage is a very very long road that needs constant compromise, realignment of expectations, constant communication and making sure that both parties are on the same path in the same journey. Marriage cannot be taken for granted and it cannot be joked about no matter under what circumstances. The most beautiful thing about marriage and the bonding between two person is not how well they compliment each other in their lives but rather how they put in the efforts to iron our their differences and realigning their expectations so they can have each other in their lives. The extent one can do and change to make sure the marriage work out and live in peace with each other is amazing. I've seen many who has roughed it out and are now so great together, and I've also seen many who couldn't bear to do it and choose to walk their path themselves or in turn find others who can walk with them. Whichever way, no one is right or wrong, but is just making choices in their lives so they can be happy in their lives.

So I am taking some time to think about where I am, how I am, what do I want and how can I achieve that. Its not in the negative mode but rather positive process.